1. Love yourself.
Ladies and gentlemen, in order to let someone love you or in order for you to love someone else, you need to love yourself. Loving yourself and having confidence is a big role for having a healthy relationship. Being self-conscious can cause a lot of struggles and stress on a relationship, causing it to be really unhealthy.
2. Trust God’s love.
There is a God who sees you, hears you, and loves you. He’s thinking about you all the time! He even sings over you.
“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.” – Zephaniah 3:17
If you haven’t felt Gods eternal, steadfast, redeeming love, hold off on looking for someone. Don’t fill that empty feeling in your heart with a quick love. God loves you unconditionally and wants you to love him back. If you are dating someone who doesn’t have a personal relationship with Christ, you are playing with fire. Let the love of Christ control you and control your relationship.
3. Don’t just seek attention.
Don’t enter a relationship just because a guy or girl has feelings for you. Don’t try to convince yourself you feel the same way if you really don’t, and don’t lead them on if you aren’t sincere. You will probably end up hurting someone.
4. Allow yourself to be molded.
Are you what your spouse is looking for? Are you at a place in your life at which you are ready and able to marry? For a healthy, long-term relationship, you need to be ready and mature with what you want. Both you and the person you are meant to be with may need to experience some more things before you’re ready for each other. Whether it’s other relationships, spiritual trials, or simply one more day, God is molding both of you into just what the other person needs.
5. Consider that you may be close.
From one day to the next, you never know what could happen. All it may take is something like a minor change in your schedule one day. Say your teacher lets you out a little late tomorrow. Yes, your class will be longer than you desire it to be, but the next thing you know, you could run into a new guy or girl you don’t usually see on the way to your next class. Just one passing greeting could prop the door open to be walked through later.
6. Become friends first.
If you think about it, your best friend would make the best boyfriend/girlfriend. They know everything from what your favorite color is to what you cant live without. You can talk and tell them any secret, because the trust your friendship has is unquestionable. Friend zoning right away allows you to really get to know them for who they are and builds a strong positive friendship. Remember, just because you friend zoned them right off the bat doesn’t mean you can’t move them out of the zone; it just means you aren’t looking for love as soon as you make eye contact. Building that friendship with a potential spouse will lead to a comfortable, healthy relationship!
7. Know who initiates.
Ladies, never be the one to initiate the relationship. Allow the guy to pursue you. It’s okay to flirt with a guy you really like, but don’t lead him on if you don’t want a commitment. Guys, take control! If you like her, ask her out on a date with no expectations. Have fun and don’t take it too seriously too soon.
8. Guard your heart.
Watch out for the ones I call the, “might be”. As in he/she “might be” flirting with me, or he/she “might be” the one. Don’t get carried away and fall really hard for someone that doesn’t have the same feelings back. Be active, vigilant, and careful about how much of your heart you give to someone. Just try to remember if you were happy being single, you can be happy without them in your life.
9. Know that God understands.
He’s the one that stepped down from all His glory to experience human life so He could understand. While He was here on earth, he experienced human hopes and desires. He even faced temptation as we do today, but because He was perfect, He never gave in to sin.
“Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.” – Hebrews 2:18
10. Pray for him or her.
One of the best things you can do while waiting for that special guy or girl is to pray for him or her. A great thing to pray is for the person to experience God’s love and His gift of salvation. Pray for them to live a life serving Him, and that his or her dreams would line up with His Will. If a potential relationship comes up, ask God to guide you both in the right direction, whether that leads you together or apart.
Just like what Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”